According to a questionnaire survey reported by the Global Times, about 65% of parents in Japan believe that the reason why their children do not go to school is the parents themselves.

According to Japan's "Mainichi Shimbun" report on October 29, the survey was organized by Futoko-net, a non-profit organization headquartered in Tokyo, and 574 guardians from all over Japan were surveyed.

On October 27, the organization released the findings of the survey: Regarding the issue of "changes brought about by children's refusal to go to school":

64.9% of the respondents believed that "the reason lies in the parents themselves, and the parents should be blamed";

53.7% of the respondents said they lost confidence in their parenting ability;

52.0% of the respondents said they felt "lonely".

When asked if they have ever sought help from others, 1 in 6.3 respondents answered "no".

Among the respondents who have sought help, 40% to 45% said that they had sought help from "class teachers" and "grade teachers, principals, teaching directors, etc.", and found it useful to ask for help.

The children of Rie Takeyama, head of Futoko-net, also refused to go to school.

She said: "Society cannot recognize the pain of these parents, and I hope the school will understand more. Relevant departments should also introduce relevant measures to strengthen financial assistance to these families and improve relevant consultation."

Yoshitomo Nakamura, another member of the group, said: "The burden of these parents has not been known until now. In order to ensure that children can receive education, it is necessary to take this social issue seriously and improve relevant laws and regulations to provide support."

According to a report by Japan's Jiji News Agency, on the 25th, the Ministry of Education, Culture, Sports, Science and Technology of Japan announced the "Survey on Problematic Behavior and Failure to Attend School" in primary and secondary schools across the country. "Not going to school" means that students play truant for a long time on their own initiative.

The results show that in 2021, there will be 244,900 junior high school students and primary school students who have experienced the behavior of "not going to school", a year-on-year increase of 24%, setting a record high.

Various Japanese media reported on it one after another, believing that this is a serious social problem.

Previously, "not going to school" was considered to be a problem only for middle school students, but this year's survey shows that the number of "not going to school" among primary school students has increased by 3.6 times compared with 10 years ago, showing a younger trend.

Children don't like to study? Parents may be doing these things wrong!

According to Mr. Yuichi Kimura, the representative of SIAPROJECT in Japan, after 12 years of investigation and statistics, he summarized the characteristics of parents of children who are tired of learning. Of course, not all parents have these characteristics, but most parents have the following characteristics:

1. Logical thinking and critical

This feature is the most common. Such parents have logical thinking in their understanding of surrounding things, "Because this is the case, we must do this."

2. Quick-tempered and focused on efficiency

Another common phenomenon is that many parents of children who are tired of learning are impatient or attach great importance to efficiency. This is perhaps another manifestation of logical and critical thinking.

3. Grumpy and irritable about trivial matters

Grumpy, and easily irritable because of trivial matters. This is also a characteristic of our common parents of children who are tired of learning.

4. Anxiety about the future

Compared with other parents, parents of children who are tired of learning always lack confidence in their own future and the future of the family and are full of anxiety.

5. There is more or less estrangement between husband and wife

It is normal to have conflicts between husband and wife, but many children who are tired of studying report that the conflicts between their parents are very deep.